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Make social media weird again.

Make social media weird again.

That’s my husband and oldest son walking around

That’s my husband and oldest son walking around the Piazza della Cisterna in San Gimigniano in 2013. We were on a family holiday to Tuscany, which with a toddler meant a lot of wandering, no museums, and a lot of gelato.

Tuscany is home to some of the world’s most-celebrated art. Michaelangelo’s David and Botticelli’s Duomo to name two. But mostly I saw old buildings, cobbled laneways, stone piazzas.

I was thinking about it last week with all the changes around instagram, and the conversation about the conversation on this app. Who gets seen? How do accounts grow?

I think what I kept hearing is - I want to make my good work. I want that good to matter. I want to be able to keep making it.

And I’m there too. I’ve been using this app since 2014 as a way to write, listen, and talk about what I’m making.

I’ve quit it. I’ve come back. I’ve had boundaries. I’ve had none.

I think about those cobbled pathways in the medieval town of San Gimigniano. The town is over a thousand years old, and while I don’t know the age of these rocks, I imagine it is old.

I imagine they were laid by ordinary workmen who ate pasta, slept by their wives, went to mass, and did their work. I imagine they heard about the wonders patronized by the Medici family in Florence, about the David, and I imagine they looked at the road they fashioned with their sweat and labor and thought it was nothing.

They had no idea that hundreds of years later to those of us who walk these streets today, the worn cobblestones are an artwork of its own. They have no idea how we marvel at their work.

Let’s not quit creating because of these apps and their rules. There is value in doing what we have to do right now. There is goodness in the work of today. Good work lasts.

#thelifechangingmagicofgrowingup

This baby. He’s four months next week, and I’

This baby.

He’s four months next week, and I’m pretty sure he’s the best thing that’s happened to me in years.

There is something about loving a baby. He just takes all the love. Every cuddle. Every coo. Every thing. There’s been something profoundly healing about loving him.

I’m convinced more than ever that the act of loving in all of its joys and sacrifices is one of the greatest things we will ever do.

There is something about loving someone else, about building up another, about nurturing beauty and life that builds strength in the lover, the builder, the nurturer. And yes maybe you’re thinking, she’s talking about loving a baby, the easiest thing on earth to love.

To that I say, maybe it’s fun to love someone who is easy to love. Maybe it’s a relief.

I don’t know who you are, I don’t know if you’ve spent the last years in deep rejection. Maybe the people you wanted to love didn’t want your love or didn’t want to be loved the way you wanted to love them.

Know that you have so much love to give. May you find the people, places, and things that long for your love.

May they smile back at you in wonder and gratitude. May you know that the work of love is worthwhile, not wasted.

#thelifechangingmagicofgrowingup

You may have guessed by now that I’m a person wh

You may have guessed by now that I’m a person who comes to judgments quickly. It’s one of my weaknesses, something I’m forever trying to mitigate.

For any of you recovering black and white thinkers, here’s a tip.

When you’re tempted to assume the worst, when you want to assume the best, assume there’s a story you do not know.

Assume there’s more.

Assume you’ll need to listen.

Assume it’s going to take work to understand.

I’ve had two conversations for the podcast in the past few weeks. Both of them are single women. @maryb.safrit and I talked talked about surviving weddings, and @kellykwolfe and I talked about consent and sexuality.

Both times I got off the call thinking: There is so much I do not know about the experience of single women.

Even though I was one for 28 years.

It’s interesting the way our culture holds empathy up as an answer for most problems. If you believe empathy is not enough of a solution, just remember empathy is better than arrogance. Empathy is more productive than arrogance.

Listening to people in different life circumstances from our own will cultivate a deep unknowing in some ways. It will make you feel insecure of what you know for sure. But it will also lead to a deeper capacity to love others, to be present for them, to work toward their good.
Assume you don’t know everything. There’s freedom there too.

(PS the episode about how to survive weddings as a single person is live - link in bio 😉.)

#empathy #healthyconnections #weddinglife #wellwateredwomen #soulscripts #connecting #sexuality #consent

I’m only talking about abortion if we are talkin

I’m only talking about abortion if we are talking about men’s bodies too.

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