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I wanted five kids. I have two. I wanted to home

I wanted five kids.

I have two.

I wanted to homeschool.

I dropped them off today for year 4 and 2 with their teachers.

I wanted to be a fun mom.

I’m v boring.

There was a time, many years ago, when the experience of my limitations meant I picked up a shovel to dig myself out.

What do I mean by the experience of my limitations?

I have a four and two year old and I’m realizing I’m at capacity. I feel like I walk on egg shells through the grocery store and my life. I’m angered. Easily.

Up to this point, what I believed told me, dig your way out. Limitations were an invitation to become better, an invitation to depend on greater strength because you can’t do it on your own.

But I knew if I kept going as is, I’d be dead emotionally and spiritually.

Can confirm now that I had no idea what I was doing because no one showed me this way. But I started to see my limitations as an arrow.

This is the way, walk in it.

Don’t have more kids, you can make that decision. It’s not the easy way out. It is wisdom.

Enroll your kids in school because you know it’s the best place for them. And you.

Do you see your limitations as an invitation to dig your way to a better version of you? What fruit does that yield in your life?

Maybe it’s time to see the limitation as an arrow.

Directing you out.

It doesn’t make you weak or faithless to say that the way you’re living isn’t working.

Reach for the wisdom you need for the life you live today. Reach for it and live.

What’s a limitation in your life pointing to today? Tell me in the comments.

#thelifechangingmagicofgrowingup

Information will not save us. When people say we

Information will not save us.

When people say we live in unprecedented times, they are right about it in one big way.

We’ve never had more information than we do today. I was born in 1982, and for any of us who lived through the beginning of the internet, we lived through - are living through - the information revolution.

My mother took us to the doctor when we got sick. My husband and I google symptoms and treatments (and take them to the doc too).

If your sink was clogged, you called a plumber. Today there’s a YouTube tutorial for that.

You and I know the way information changed our lives for the better. My premenstrual dysphoria diagnosis gave me information I needed. I’m guessing you’ve got your stories too.

But information is not enough, and I fear when I look at us, that we think if only we had right information, that would be enough.

Every revolution has its consequences. The industrial revolution brought about horrendous working conditions, lack of housing in cities, child labor. Our information revolution has consequences too.

Believing that the right information is enough for us is one of those consequences.

We are not robots who can survive on accurate programming. We need love and laughter, water and sunshine, touch and tenderness. We need things that cannot be understood or explained.

Many of us are wondering what it looks like to be people of peace and effectiveness in our world today and I wonder if this is one of the starting points.

Release your hunger for more information.

Embrace mystery.

Live.

#thelifechangingmagicofgrowingup

I don’t care what their enneagram number is. I

I don’t care what their enneagram number is.

I don’t care how good their essential oils biz is.

I don’t care how empowered you are to run your race because of their content.

If they peddle lies, stop listening. Conspiracy theories have consequences.

Can I put my big sister hat on and boss you for a

Can I put my big sister hat on and boss you for a bit?

Several weeks ago we did something for fun in stories. You told me your life situation, and I gave you a “prophecy” for 2021. The vast majority was in good fun, but a few hit me hard. One in particular was a lady whose mentor told her to keep sacrificing in something (it sounded like) that this lady was ready to move on from.

I typed out: 2021 is the year you get a new mentor. And that idea stayed with me.

Some of you need a new mentor in 2021.

There are so many ways people lead us now. We’ve got bosses at work, our own personal “coaches,” people who disciple us at church. There’s also the men and women we follow online. We buy their books, sign up for their courses, and take their advice to heart.

Mentors are great. Let’s not deceive ourselves, we are all following someone. But I also needed to know when a mentoring relationship no longer served. I’ve needed the discernment to know when someone’s role in my life was becoming unhealthy (true for real relationships and people we follow online with whom we have no relationship).

The mentors who have lasted the longest are the ones who lead with their lives. Our relationship isn’t about me following their counsel or not. It’s based on a mutual respect and trust. The awareness that we are whole people, not one who is stronger and one who is deficient. Somehow those relationships involved a lot of listening, and the fruit was growth, a deepened ability to trust my instincts.

If a relationship is starting to feel suffocating, maybe it’s a mentoring relationship that’s run its course. Maybe it’s time for you to move on. Maybe go without a mentor for a while.

Maybe wait for a mentor that’s a better fit.

Mentors can exert influence that controls, guides, or frees.

Which kind do you want?

Photos are of two of my favourite mentors: Luci Shaw and my cousin in law and friend, Dinesha.

Many years ago we spent a few weeks wondering if m

Many years ago we spent a few weeks wondering if my husband was seriously ill (it was only a few weeks of wondering only to find out all was well).

But my mind was spinning out imagining the worst, a terminal cancer, months of life left.

On one of those days, I was driving and heard this question in me, “What would you do differently if he had only 4 months left to live?”

The answer came back straight away.

I would love like I wasn’t afraid.

We each face our mountains, valleys, and rivers here at the start of 2021. I don’t know what Love without fear looks like for you in your neighborhood and community.

But I know the freedom I felt in my car that day in knowing the path could be simple.

Love. Love again. Love more. For love does not fail.

#thelifechangingmagicofgrowingup

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